Blooming Boundaries
「Priceless Daisy」
When I was walking last night, I noticed a lot of flowers blooming at the nursery in the market. I couldn’t help but to peek because they were inviting.
Since I was walking with my mom, she told me to be careful because this nursery often charges an unreasonable price. At first, I believed my mom as she kept comparing the price to another town where it’s much cheaper.
The thing is, the cost to get to another town isn’t something that she’d consider. Whereas this nursery that we don’t even have to spend on transportation, it’s not that bad. Most of the popular flowers cost around $1.5 - $2 which surprised me.
It’s still reasonable isn’t it? But according to my mom, that is way too expensive.
Silly me sometimes, that I believe everything she says. She liked to say things are expensive and it’s better not to get things or even fix things. She often made me reluctant to do anything because she already said that it would be too expensive.
Over and over again, I realized, they aren’t that expensive and there are better deals when in reality, the better deals aren’t the better deals. They would always come with extra cost and expenses.
Ever since coming back here, I am definitely taking everything that she said with a grain of salt. Just like this flower, this daisy that I was overjoyed to get but my mom made the whole experience sour because she argued with the seller that it’s too expensive. Even the seller was uncomfortable by her presence.
In the end though, I was happy to enliven the space I occupy for the cost of a coffee. I just think that this would make me feel a lot more comfortable being home and actually spend less in the long term by not going out.
Now that I spend less time with her, I’ve realized that since I am moving back, so many of my independence and boundaries get blurred. This daisy reminds me of that new beginning. I specifically chose the yellow one because when I saw it, that made me feel more cheerful and positive.
Once I was home, I played around with my camera and used a flashlight to create this effect. I didn’t know that by doing that, it could create these twinkling effects without any heavy editing.
I am currently expanding my collection again as I am seeing that the prices of flowers and plants are quite reasonable. I want to add more flowers to my balcony with some more shrubbery and greenery that are much easier to take care of. That being said, I need objects for my photography too 😂more flowers, could invite butterflies that’ll happily play around on my balcony.
And silly me for not doing this sooner just because I believed what my mother said about the cost of these flowers.
Sometimes our relatives are bound by their beliefs and are trying to regain a sense of control after loss ... your mother may be frustrated because of the loss of your father and it is coming out in unhappiness toward other things that don't make sense to her. That will also affect you because you are close ... but you are right to make the space you need to be yourself, while having the option of understanding what may be happening with your mother.
That's why I've been trying to be a lot more understanding to her because it hasn't been long my father passed. I can only hope that at one point she'll change or reflect on the things that she said to me while she's grieving or perhaps not.
Understanding and hope do not mean you are bound to live by other people's bad behavior ... it sometimes means you can move on with your life with less hard feelings, and whatever trap someone else is in does not become your own... you can be safe and whole whether they choose to come out of the trap or not, although OF COURSE, in this particular case, we hope together for the very best!
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Sometimes it's best to just listen to parents comments but not follow it😂
They unknowingly push on their values. ✨😂
hahahaha they definitely tend to do that
When he was young, my brother would liberate plants from other people's gardens, while my mother kept sketch. He had a most beautiful array of plants, and it didn't cost him a penny!:)
It's difficult to deal with our parents when we're not on the same wavelength. I imagine she still needs time to process the loss of your father, while you need some space for yourself. It's okay to spend time together, but I think you're right to be aware of the things that affect you negatively and protect yourself from them. It's not a question of distancing yourself completely, but of finding a balance where she can feel that you are there without it affecting you.
I didn't know you could get those flashes with a torch either, I'll make a note of the trick because the photos turned out great. I hope you continue to show us your new acquisitions, the flowers are a joy to behold and uplifting.
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I dislike going to the market with my mom because most of the time, she sounds like a dogmatic economist and gets argumentative over prices of things too which is always embarrassing. Lol.
I used to think these were sunflowers. At least now I get it that they’re daisies.
I love how a simple yellow daisy can represent so much: independence, joy, and a new beginning. 🌼✨ The story behind it and the light effect in the photo make it even more special. It’s a reminder that our decisions, no matter how small they seem, have great value when they truly come from us.
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Hello, this year I bought a lot of new flowers. At first I paid attention to the price, because my budget is unfortunately limited. However, when I saw a variety of flowers that I don’t have in my garden and flower beds yet, I chose a few for myself without hesitation. I order flowers mainly from online stores, but I also buy some at the markets. I like to add new colors to my flower beds. You chose wonderful flowers and took interesting photos, thank you for that 😊😍💛
i remember when my mother said the same thing when i saw a dress i wanted to buy.. she told me it was expensive don't buy it there....it's cheaper at the other store..but when we went to the store she said..the items were even more expensive compared to the first place we went.. i don't know why our mother are like that sometimes..i don't understand..😅😅
Great shots, a flower is always a perfect subject for photography. Cheers!
Hi @macchiata it was to nice to meet you here. Yeah, I love daisy flowers too. These are one of the flowers we bought and offer to our altar. With that price it is already cheap. I'm happy that you bought to that kind of price. Lovely daisies and I imagine the facial expression of your mom that she was very happy too.
This are beautiful pictures! Love them and wish everyone’s life blooms and moves pretty like this flowers