When the Whole Village Becomes Family: Inside Our Living Wedding Culture

There is also a season for weddings and in our culture there are some seasons which we also call the wedding season. The months of October, November and December are the months in which most people arrange wedding functions. Apart from this, there is also a season for weddings in the months of May, June and July. However, weddings continue from time to time. However, weddings that take place in the family or among relatives have a different test because at the weddings of relatives, all the friends and relatives who live far away or are abroad for work also attend the wedding. Thus, I would like to write here that a wedding is a function in which distant relatives mingle, meet each other and spend a lot of time with each other. In our culture, a wedding lasts for at least three days and sometimes the wedding function lasts for a whole week. Thus, on the last day of the wedding, rich meals are arranged for the guests. It has become a tradition in our culture that at least three dishes should be served to the guests. Thus, buffalo or other meat is cooked along with pulao or biryani beef, zarda pulao halwa and Kashmiri tea and wheat bread for dessert. In this way, the guests are served with great respect and honor, including all the relatives and friends.

People who live in villages or small towns arrange wedding functions at home and arrangements are also made to feed the guests at home and famous chefs of the area do the cooking and prepare the food. But in big cities where the population is high and people's houses are small and there is no space to seat the guests, weddings are arranged at hotels in big cities and the guests are fed at the hotel and other events are also held at the hotel. But I live in a village. My village is a beautiful village called Moch and it is located in the tehsil of Mianwali district. But now the population of my village is also increasing and it has taken the form of a small city. But people's houses are big and if there are big houses, then those who are neighbors, if their house is big, they also use their neighbors' houses for one or two days for the guests and in this way whenever there is a function in the village, In any open area, beautiful tents are set up there and the guests are seated there with great respect and honor. Then food is served to the people there and other wedding functions are also arranged there. In our area, there is a separate portion for women and a separate portion for men. Men and women celebrate the function separately. Whenever a wedding is held in our area, it is also taken into account that if more people are being invited, then regular accommodation is also arranged for them. But since our area is a cultural area, people have relationships among themselves. People are connected by blood ties among themselves. So most of the people live in these areas. If any friend or relative comes from afar, then his own house is also present in the village or if his brother's house is present, he goes there and stays. In this way, there is not much problem of accommodation. Whenever a wedding is held in our area, at least one thousand people attend. If a small wedding is held, if it is arranged on a small scale, at least more than 300 people attend the wedding, thus creating a beautiful atmosphere. Friends celebrate the wedding and pray for the bride and groom, give gifts, and thus a beautiful bond of family ties is formed, and it is beautiful like a garden, like flowers, people meet each other and ask each other about their well-being.

In the months of October and November, I have attended about 15 weddings and you can guess that I have attended about one to two weddings almost every seven days. These 15 weddings are those that were far from my home and were not even in my village. But if I talk about the village, then including small weddings, it makes about 20 or more weddings. Thus, you can guess how many weddings are held in our area in the months of October and November and it is a happy occasion. People get their children married and invite their family and relatives and friends. So the purpose of telling and writing here is to tell you what a beautiful culture and tradition there is in my area and some people spend less on weddings and some spend more. In this way, each person spends according to their ability and status, but everyone has this desire that if they are getting their son or daughter married and then they are getting the guests married, If they are rich, they can serve their guests well at the wedding of their son and daughter and also feed them delicious food. This is a beautiful system. In addition, the relatives who are poor also help their poor relatives. They give gifts and help with the wedding expenses. This is a family system in which each member of the family helps another member of their family according to their status. Similarly, happiness is shared and a beautiful atmosphere is created. It is never a question of who has to pay how much. But I want to tell you that in our culture, this is a beautiful system that some relatives give gifts, some relatives help with the wedding expenses. And when the last day of the wedding is, which we call the wedding feast, friends and relatives come to the wedding feast, then they give some money in cash according to their status to the wedding family so that they can be helped. But this is not help, rather it is a gift from friends and relatives. It is a tradition that they participate in it. While doing this, after eating, we help our friends and relatives, that too with cash. This is a beautiful system that we can be proud of and happy about. Every region and every country has its own customs and traditions, which they run according to their religion, culture, society and culture. Most of our system is an Islamic system because we are Muslims and our customs and traditions are also completely linked to Islam. So I am writing all these things here so that I can inform you and tell you about our beautiful culture.

I have taken some pictures of a wedding in which you can see friends eating food and friends serving their friends. I have taken these pictures with my mobile phone. You can see how happily and happily all the guests are eating food and you can also taste the flavors of the food here.

Whether young or old, people of any age participate in the splendor of the wedding together and work together. And everyone always wants this event to pass happily and peacefully at the wedding. Friends who come from far away also want a good atmosphere for those who are going to attend the wedding. Sometimes, there is a music program during the wedding and friends dance in the music program and drums are also played. There is also our traditional culture, our cultural dance, music and then the cultural dress of our region is also worn.

Now I will show you some pictures of a beautiful wedding function. This wedding was of my cousin's daughter. In it, all my relatives are eating food. Friends are eating food. I hope you will like these beautiful pictures. And when you see these pictures, you can also guess how beautiful the culture is in our area. How people sit together and eat happily. So I will show you these pictures. Let's go. Through the pictures, I will take you on a tour of the wedding.

No, I would like to add one more thing here that a wedding function is a function of happiness, only those who are invited participate in it. This culture has now become a tradition in our area and it is also important that only those people who are invited should participate in the wedding. But sometimes it happens that people who are not invited also attend the wedding dinner in large numbers and thus sometimes there is less food in the wedding functions. But now in our area, if one hundred people are invited to a wedding, then food is arranged for about 150 people. This is a beautiful culture of our area that if any person attends a wedding function even without an invitation, he is given respect and honor. In our area, people live in the form of combined families and people from many families live together. They live in one neighborhood and one street. So our area is a beautiful area. In terms of family, and in this way, people are bound in a beautiful bond, but sometimes some people They make fewer arrangements because they have less power or status and they arrange food for only as many people as they have invited. But sometimes people who are not invited also attend the meal, which causes difficulties. But now, keeping this in mind, people cook more food so that food can be prepared in advance for those who attend without an invitation. Because it is a happy occasion. People come to eat on a happy occasion, so we do not send them back without feeding them. This is a beautiful system, a beautiful culture. What is the arrangement for food on the occasion of a wedding in your area, in your country, in your community? You must tell me in the comments. And if you also write an article like this in your area, it will be very beautiful. I thank you all very much for taking the time to read my article and liking it. You must tell me how you liked my article today and the pictures I have taken. How is it made? I don't have a very expensive mobile phone, but I use whatever phone I have to make these pictures. Thank you all very much.