Can parents be happy without their kids ?

This question really made me to think what life have in stores. Every person I guess dreams of a life with loved ones, having wife, kids and parents what make a happy family. Even I was not aware of the real happiness untill I spend time with my parents.

Our parents are the elderly member of the family who also need someone to look after when they grows older. Being a son, I enjoyed my best time of life in last 5 years while looking after my Dad. Knowing his experinces, their knowledges their understanding on dofferrnt topics are simply way ahead then us. Our generation are only technological savvy. And their generation have seen the different phases of life's.

Why the Question ?? 🤔🤔

As I am in city, yesterday a neighbour visited me to pay condolences on my dad death. In between the conversation they said they are happy as their kids were settled abroad. They are living here alone for the past 15 years. They have a daughter, happily married , working and settled in USA , and a son too working and settled in different part USA. Not even the sister - brother duo are living closeby

The family belongs from West bengal (eastern India) and they are living here alone in the residential complex. Not even their relatives are nearby as all of them were on the other side of India. Both husband and wife are staying here alone with noone closely. They are of my dad's office colleages and have attained the same age as of my father, close to 80 years. They have limited contact too in the vicinity and hardly contacts with any unknown people.

Is money everything??

The neighbouring lady said to me that they are happy seeing their kids settled and living own life. This really made me to wonder, is money everything. The kids are staying in a foreign land, leaving their parents and their own ancestoral property deserted. Only in hope of earning money.

I assume that if any oppurtinity knocks you to earn in foreign land then we should focus on earning only for a limited time rather then hoping to settle down permanently. A period of 10 years is enough. One should never leave the ancestoral land and home. They are the roots of our life and roots never supposed to be uprooted.

Parental Concern!!

I hope the lady were pretending to be happy. My own experince says, that every parent wants their kids to stay closeby. My Dad often get unconcious, but in thatbstate still he looks out for me and keep calling my name. My presence during his last stage gives him good strength and support.

This ought to be a self realization, that as parent grows older they mostly vonfined to their homes. Their body does not allow much to do. And at that time, they look out for support and who could be the best man to provide an outsider or insider? I belive that the kids are the only best support a parent can get at older time.

Feeling sorry.

I feel sorry for my neighbour. They were counting their days with noone standing close. Many of their community have already left to different places and these two old fellas are left alone, not even the kids can omes in case of emergency y or mishappening. Getting down from USA is not a day job. Seems even the kids were not bothered or concerned of their situation and looking more of their personal life. But does that really matters when they were asked to leave the foreign land, where they move ahead?? Back to India, or strayed in another zone?

I am not saying leaving all earning sources and standing with parent, like I did but i was not left with option in home town. But atleast a kid can opt out to look out a job and stay close to their parents in their last stage of life. That will definatelly gives immense support to parent.

It is just like their presence matters during our childhood. Life's doesn't asks for more.

Peace!!

Namaste @steemflow