Convey & Acknowledge
Alas, these days we'd rather abandon each other and always focus on the negatives. The extreme use of manipulation, ghosting, and gaslighting are part of the new trend.
Even when we are awfully in love with someone, we still fret about sharing our feelings because we'd rather play games, play hard to get, and make it feel like "better options" are out there. Another issue, of the new age and generation, is that short-term goals and content, and a lack of patience and understanding are becoming way too common day by day.
Aren't we humans? The so-called "superior kind"?
If so, why do we hesitate to share our deepest, sometimes darkest thoughts with our loved ones?
Over 7000 languages in the world, and these days we'd rather rely on silence and distance. Because arrogance and pride get in the way, and sometimes win too. We seem to be better off fighting our significant other and creating distance, rather than fighting our egos and tackling the issues together as a team.
Communication gap is the issue I see most of the time; yet, it shouldn't be that way.
Within the past 40 days or so, I've consulted three relationships. It was a matter of two young newlyweds, one breakup, and a divorce.
The one thing they all have in common is there's a huge communication gap.
Even though the newlyweds seemed to be doing well, their decision to get married was quite impulsive. I do wish them the best, but such decisions shouldn't be made in haste.
They all always come to me with such relationship problems, and I try and suggest my "methods". They are friends, after all, I can't deny them. I am no professional who's getting paid to do this, but I volunteer when it's necessary. They trust me and feel as if I've always been good with relationships, and my marriage is going quite well too.
Even if I talk about my past relationships, none of them ended with hate and silence. We mutually understood our positions, timing, and circumstances in life, and we ended it on good terms.
I guess I got lucky, maybe? Or maybe it all went that way because I was always careful and patient when it came to love.
My marriage so far has taken the least amount of effort, compared to my previous relationship, it's been hassle-free. Here, I am lucky because I have an understanding partner. She understands that I am in a pivotal stage, and gives me the extra bit of time to work and focus on different aspects of my life; as I work on myself, to grow and make progress as I am a responsible man.
When we got married I had nothing to give her, I couldn't afford much; after having lost most of my savings to COVID and having no active income either. But now, after 3 years, most of the things she wants and needs, I can take care of it.
She has surfed the waves with me, with every patient up, and the abrupt downs as well...
If you're not willing to go all the way with your partner, talk it out, and understand things from their perspective, then your relationship will face tougher battles.
Because at the end of the day, you'll be fighting these battles alone...
"No relationship is all sunshine, but two people can share one umbrella and survive the storm together." - Unknown
Your wife really tried for her to be able to stay with you when you had no job and nothing to give to her. Some other women will leave and neglect you so at the end of the day, it all depends on love and our level of understanding
Well, there are a lot of bums these days, out there lying on their beds and scrolling social media all day. So, you can't really blame a lot of women who decide to leave.
And yes, of course, there are those women who have no trust, belief, or patience; we're better off maintaining distance from such women.