"Does My Difficulty Cause More Harm Than Good?"
Humans as social beings get to associate with one another on different occasions, it could be from where we work, school, or even the area where we reside, the bottom line is we get to meet different people with different characters, people who distance themselves from association and people who interact well, skillful people with various talent and can multitask and people who take on one task at a time. The facts are nobody is perfect or complete as every one of us has our strengths and weaknesses. sometimes what I find an easy thing to do may end up being the most difficult thing for you and the same applies to me.
The One Thing I Find Most Difficult To Do
There is this one thing I find difficult to do which sometimes I feel does me more harm than good, this is the act of not being able to say "NO". Yes, it sounds weird but that's one of the most difficult things for me I literally end up assisting people and leaving my tasks aside or engaging in strenuous activities in other to be of help to my loved ones or friends, Some people might describe this term as being a people pleaser but I don't see myself as someone who seeks people validation and I have boundaries where I'm not overly accommodating but sometimes overly empathetic, always trying to put myself in other people's shoes which most usually affects me.
The Negative Side To My Difficulty
I have noticed some negative impacts of my inability or would I say habits of not declining certain requests from people which includes impeded personal growth; because I take on tasks that help other people, it gives me less time and energy to take on or pursue my own goals, interests and what I have passion for and also decreases the quality of my work as I don't devote enough time and attention to whatever task I take on. It also makes me end up being overly committed which gets me stressed and overwhelmed.
To every negative end, there is a positive side to it as taking all this commitment not only helps me get a sense of fulfillment when I get it done but also gives me an insight into how people live their everyday lives and helps me build good relationships with people as saying "YES" strengthen relationships by showing support, and willingness to help and it also creates opportunities as I get new experiences and involve myself in new projects.
Now would you say the negative has outweighed the positive or is it vice versa 🤔?
Of course, if you always want to put yourself in people’s shoes, you’ll always end up being the one at loss and it will always be at your disadvantage too.
The earlier you learn how to say no, the better .
I'm gradually giving it a try, I now only say yes when I have a free schedule 😊
That’s great