Nobody Is Watching! [Weekend-Engagement 259]
I think I talked before about my adolescence, it is a time that I did not like very much, there were too many fears that kept me for years in my comfort zone, that safe place where my parents seemed to be everything. If I could go back in time and talk to my 15 year old self I would warn him not to choose a career in computer science, that it would make me lose valuable years of what would be our real profession; but more important is the advice I would give myself, simply: Nobody Is Watching!.
A lot of things at the beginning of our adult life depends on the education we were given, mine was very good, but I was overprotected, which made me hit even harder with what life is really about. In my teenage years fears reigned, I thought that everyone was watching me, that everyone was judging me and that my actions really negatively affected my future, but that's not the case, at least not the silly actions like disobeying my parents or being bad at math or physics. It's amazing how at that time in my life I thought that one wrong step would mean the end of the world, and now I know that really nobody is watching, people just have time to mind their own business.
I don't even have photos from my adolescence, and not so much because we were a family that couldn't afford digital cameras (which was also a reality), but I was so unhappy with myself and my physical appearance that if I could I wouldn't have taken pictures of myself, and if I did I'm sure I wouldn't be smiling like in these selfies I'm sharing today.
Yes, in high school there really was a lot of evil, students who only dedicated themselves to making other people's lives miserable, but today I realize that it was all superficial and that the evil I am talking about was just their way of defending themselves from their own lives. I was never intent on hurting anyone, and in the process I hurt myself by holding back from experiences because I felt it was a world that was not for me. I literally felt that everyone was watching my every move, my parents, my uncles, my aunts, my cousins, my teachers, our neighbors, the people at church, and yes, possibly to some extent I was right, I was still a minor, but just like today, it was only for correction or gossip, but I was always the master of my life and I didn't know it.
Nowadays there are few things that embarrass me, and anyway they are not so embarrassing, they are just mine and I carry them inside, but they do not limit me. There may be people who do follow your every move for some reason, but I don't care, we shouldn't care, we should just live life, in our own way, without hurting others, seize every moment as if it were the last of our lives, in fact I need to do it, feel it and believe it, because I owe it to myself after being my own jailer in the past.
Nobody Is Watching!!!, I think he means that no one really cares if you succeed or fail, everyone is in their own personal battle, I don't even know if there is anyone actually reading this post, but I write it anyway, maybe it will be useful to someone, or maybe it will seem silly to others, but I don't care 😅 it's my blog, my life, my thoughts, and I wish I had understood this from an early age. I'm not complaining about my life, the road to get to where I am today has been beautiful in retrospect, but how great it would be to have the power to go back in time and tell that 15 year old boy not to waste his time in sadness, that yes he would have a happy ending with the perfect woman ❤️
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This blog resonates what I feel back then. I'm still young, 22, and I will be soon joining the league of adulthood. In my recent years, I feel like every move I take, the way I speak, the way I show myself, everything that I do is being watched by the people that surrounds me. I always assume that they're having bad thoughts in their minds about me. I constantly feel that I am in a spotlight, being watched, getting judged, and getting laugh at. It's a battle within ourselves, with our own minds. And the only thing that will set us free is by helping ourselves to cope and fight. I realized that, I just assuming things. That it is just all in my head, and that is not true.
Whenever I feel like someone is thinking or saying bad about me, I always ask myself this:
This helps me a lot. To cope and battle my own thoughts. I eventually leaned how to not mind other people's opinions about me. It's their own anyway. I know myself and they don't, so any opinion of then will just be always an opinion and not a fact. In that way, I can be happy, I can be at peace. I don't overthink. I can be calm and just be happy, just be me.
I see that our paths have been very different, and yes, our parents are usually the ones who rule our lives in the early years, but over time I have realized that no one is really watching, and if there are people who dominate us, then we must break free from that yoke, because we are the masters of our own lives. Of course, everything must be done with love, but also with determination. Thank you for your words, my friend. I wish you all the best ❤️
So true my friend, everyone is so into their own thing that many times bothering others is just an escape to their own world.
But it's something we don't understand in our youth. It doesn't affect many people, but others live imprisoned by themselves, and that happened to me. The good thing is that now I enjoy my life to the fullest. Thank you for your kind words 🙏
I also felt that way while growing up; I was afraid of committing serious mistakes coz I thought society would judge me and my family would also be affected. I agree, I would also have given similar advice to my younger self, to not be dictated by others' judgement or expectations.
I'm glad to hear that you feel as positive as I do now. It would be wonderful if we had the power to go back in time, but it's also nice to move forward in life and see that everything turned out well. Thank you for your kind comment 🙏
Of course I read you!!! Of course I do! My teenage years... were similar, and yes, there are many cruel and evil people in this world... we should live life as best we can. What's good for me isn't good for you, everyone knows! Hugs!
Abstract times, ha ha ha. Well, we know that this isn't reality and that we can't go back to the past, but we also know that we are very strong today and that those details from before don't hurt us anymore. Thank you for your words. I think many of us felt that way before...
This hit home. I also used to be so scared of doing something “wrong” when I was younger, like one mistake would ruin everything. But you're right, most of the time... nobody is watching, they’re just trying to survive like the rest of us. Thank you for reminding me to live for me.
People use mockery and judge others to escape their own realities, a shield so that we don't see them either. We just have to go through life doing what we want, doing good and not hurting others, and everything will be fine. Thank you for your words, my friend 🙏
Many young people hide their fears and shortcomings, making jokes and teasing their peers, these actions reflect a lack of attention and affection.
That's definitely true, and now as an adult, I still see it in many people. We just have to learn from those past mistakes and free ourselves, sometimes freeing ourselves from ourselves. Thank you Belkys, have a great day!...