RE: 💜 Emotions in Lilac 💜
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Yes, of course, we almost always have things we’d like to change, but sometimes it’s just plain terrible. Over the years, I’ve seen it all, and there are always cases that surprise me — not the typical “oh, I’d love to have curly hair” that I’m referring to, but rather a kind of self-bullying that feels awful and sad.
It’s hard to explain: when a person subjects themselves to a portrait session and is so harsh — really harsh — with themselves. It’s as if they came to take a photo just to confirm that they are “ugly?!” — according to their own self.
That’s not too common, though unfortunately it happens more often than one might expect. The “my arm looks too fat” or “could you fix that tooth?” — that’s normal😄. But then there are days when people come in and you just don’t understand why they’re even there.
Sometimes it seems like they’re looking for something they can’t find in the mirror, like they want to confirm their worst thoughts about themselves, and that really hurts.
In those moments, photography stops being a nice memory and becomes something more like a personal judgment. And as a photographer, you’re left without words, because no matter how many lights, angles, or frames you use, nothing can change the way that person sees themselves 😞
This is exactly what I wanted to say. I don't understand these people, but I suppose these are the energy vampires you find everywhere. I'm not a professional photographer and have never done such photo shoots but I know people who are, as you say, self bullying themselves, just to make you feel sorry for them and comfort them all day.
In your line of work however, whatever you say or do, you can't really lie to the camera and post production can only do a limited adjustment so I really feel sorry you have to deal with so difficult clients. Some are really hopeless 🙁