“Hace poco entendí que priorizarme es de las formas más egoístas y puras de amor propio”.

Una idea preconcebida en la antigüedad

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Radicalismo

Así que…

¡Ámense, es gratis!

“I recently understood that prioritizing myself is among the most selfish and pure forms of self-love.”

A preconceived idea in antiquity.

When I was inquiring about self-love, I thought it was as easy as looking in the mirror and feeling pretty, a perpetual state of conformity and peace that springs from our soul and is reflected in our physique, so I would strive to make my physique pleasing.

I felt guilty because no matter how hard I tried, an emptiness settled in my heart and the truth is that I never managed to fill it. No matter how many times I tried to improve my physique with aesthetic aspects such as makeup or constant makeovers, I always had the feeling that there was something to improve, when the reality was that I wanted to demonstrate.

The truth is that every time I read about self-love, I thought: How do they love themselves so much? Is there something wrong with me? The truth is that they were so flexible with everyone that I simply forgot that empathy goes two ways.

Let's understand the situation

There are no absolutes! Life is an up and down of emotions and experiences and the truth is that I don't know much about how everyone manages their own path, but there are no constants, and hence our responsibility to forge an emotional intelligence that allows us to do damage control when things go off track.

Whenever I see those influencers who promise you that you are going to be that person of high value that every day earns thousands of dollars and although in many cases the intention is good or just trying to profit, the reality is that each one of us is a different universe and what works for one, for another not so much, and that's fine, only when we start the way to understand self-love caution is best.

Obviously, habits of cleanliness, order (which is very relative, we'll talk about that later) and health (mental and physical) are pieces that work for everyone, maybe I'm wrong, but in my 30 years I have understood that sometimes little things make the difference, like that pleasant feeling when we have a freshly dressed and perfumed bed while the rain falls.

However, understanding that loving ourselves sometimes is not just about small actions is also a way to rebuild our self-esteem.

Radicalism

I declare myself a radical rebel, and mind you, I've had my moments, but there are things that are non-negotiable, like my boundaries or my peace. Once I was doing “peace stuff” and my emotions were literally building up in my throat and squeezing my chest.

In therapy I understood that we all must have non-negotiables and that is a form of love. Obviously that changes from person to person, but what is certain is that we must be radical when what violates our peace puts out our light.

It is as easy as a boundary that no one should cross and the way we become inflexible to so much in front of the world. If you ask me, I can't control what others do, but I can control my reactions, how it affects me and how I choose to leave because it doesn't do me any good.

I'll be brutally honest and that is that I don't owe anyone the favor of putting up with bad treatment, so with the power that is in my hands I walk away.

So...

If I were to talk to you about self-love, we would go on for 10,000 more words, but the truth is that choosing yourself as the biggest and most important of your projects is undoubtedly one of the best decisions.

Understand that every project adjusts, changes and sometimes needs more than one expert, but the truth is that once it culminates it can awaken the ambition to build much further.

Love each other, it's free!

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Diseño y edición realizados en Canva.
Fotografías de mi propiedad tomadas con Infinix Note 40.
La traducción se realizó con DeepL.

Design and editing done in Canva.
Photographs of my property taken with Infinix Note 40.
Translation done with DeepL.