Thoughts over coffee: Part Eleven - A better you
Coffee and I are old friends (coffee is older than me of course) and I do a lot of thinking over coffee. With this in mind I decided to start a little concept called thoughts over coffee which I'll be doing from time to time.
Topic - Be a better you
Be competent
- Read every day, not comics, but information that adds layers of value to your understanding of the world around you, other people and yourself.
- Never waste time when travelling to and from work - listen to podcasts or audio books that help you build your skills.
- Hold the ethos that each and every person you meet and each interaction was sent to teach you something new or underpin and extend existing knowledge.
Create and nurture your own momentum
- Celebrate your wins. I write mine down and have a small reward attached to each which is, of course, commensurate to the scale of the win.
- Review your "win book" and remember how you attained the win, but more importantly how you felt when you secured the win.
- Revel in the fact you've made those achievements and thank yourself for making the effort to work towards them.
These items above are easily achieved by all of us and help form the cornerstones of the platform one can build upon to become a better version of themselves. I don't see any valid excuse for a person who has made the decision to improve upon themselves and their lives not doing these things.
What do you reckon? If you want to comment below then go ahead, I'm interested in your thoughts and experiences.
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I think I need to do a course to learn how to relax. My one toxic trait is that I feel like I must always be doing something. Something productive, something that will make me better, or improve the life of someone that I care about.
I need to buy a whipper snipper, probably. That is something I've been lazy about.
Yep, relaxation is one of the key factors in the drive to success I think. I hope you find some.
And a strimmer.
Never heard it called one of these before :P
String trimmer. It's a term used in other countrieslike UK.
Yeah doing better to better who we are is the exact fact, and that's what I enjoy doing everyday which has helped me become better today thank you
No worries, good work.
Thanks
I do this and they always tell me "oh why you bother, knowing or not how the world goes won't change anything", some people are donkeys and you can't make them reflect, knowing how world goes is a must not to get indoctrinated by mainstream
I never thought of a win book, interesting concept to remind what you achieved even when moral is down
I wonder if you'll start a win book. If you do, let me know how it goes.
I probably should, because I'm more focused on fails rather than wins, fails make more noise even in my mind
That's often the case, works to balance it out though.
I can't listen to podcasts on the bus, I get sleepy 😅
And since I'm not like my colleagues who sleep every time or look aimlessly out the window, I'm most often at Hive. I read others' posts, write or prepare photos for my own posts.
Someone would say, you waste your time that way, but I'm definitely doing something I like, and I'd rather do anything than look out the window or take a nap.
You have a good ethos in life and are well on track I think. Keep it up.
Since focusing on offline life again, I have been reading everyday. Mostly fiction thrillers, but plan to add more historical stuff to the rotation. Although I am retired, I do walk every other morning right now, and will be starting every morning very soon. I talk to my oldest son twice a week while he drives into work and need something to occupy my mind on the rest of the walks. Podcasts are something I have thought about and will finally pulled the trigger on. There are a couple I have in mind already. I do not meet a lot of new people these days, but try to learn from those interactions when I can. Not only about the other person, but about myself.
I think writing down my wins is something I really need to do. LOgging and tracking tasks and accomplishments is something I did religiously when I worked. It is something that I need to pick up again even in retirement. One of my biggest challenges is staying out of my own head and keeping out the negative thoughts about myself since retiring. Having that list of accomplishments and small wins written in front of me may be a boost I need to fight those negative thoughts off immediately. Rewards are nice too!
Have a good one!
Write down those wins mate, it's a nice thing to be able to look back on them later and feel good about the effort that went into them. Very motivating. Keep up the good work.
Thanks. I already have a nice journaling book, just need to put it to use recording those wins. Gonna start today by getting some work done on the wifes car and then some work done in my basement in preparation for the electrician to come next week.
That's the way to do it.
One other good way to become a better you is by building good habits and breaking off the bad ones. Most of the problems we encounter in life are a result of bad habits. Bad habits can make it difficult to build satisfying relationships, achieve our goals, or land good opportunities that can change our lives. Bad habits can equally ruin our lives even after we achieve success. For example celebrities who ruined themselves by behaving unseemly in public.
I've nothing more to add, you say it really well.
The three points about victories and triumphs are very important, especially the part where you refer to remembering how I felt at that moment. That relates to something I've studied: feeling something good attracts more of that good, so victory multiplies. That's how the law of attraction and action and consequence works.
Just yesterday, while doing other things at home, I listened to a very interesting podcast that enriched me greatly and reaffirmed things I already knew. Sometimes I do two things at the same time.
I hope you had a very good Sunday.
Podcasts can be great, which one did you listen to?
It was recommended to me here at Hive. It's in Spanish, but it has nothing to do with religion, only science. It confirmed things I already knew.
Then I listened to this playlist, which is the soundtrack to an Italian film... how beautiful. I know I looked at strange things.
I do read, read, read every day. I don't waste time on things that don't help expand my knowledge. When I'm not reading, I write short stories or poems.
I'm a senior citizen and I need to read more or write to sharpen my brain. This is also one factor in preventing dementia, which is often a disease of the elderly. It's nice to read and write, which helps expand my knowledge.
Thank you so much for sharing @galenkp. God bless.
I think you have a good understanding of one of the aspects that can assist you to ward off the issues that come along with ageing. Well done.
Thank you so much @galenkp. I have learned a lot from reading especially about health issues in aging individuals. I enjoy reading, writing, and lately, I have found an enjoyable crossword puzzle, which also helps to enhance my memory and prevent me from becoming lazy, and not only that, I'm happy because I also earn cryptocurrency. So when I'm bored I also play a crossword puzzle called #wordbreeze. Have you come across with that? Have a nice day and God bless you more.
I don't do crossword puzzles but have heard they can help relieve boredom.
Yes, crossword puzzles relieve boredom and prevent forgetfulness among the elderly. ☺️
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STOPWhile I'm pretty good at the "Be competent" part I all 3 points, I never really thought about the "nurturing momentum" part. Though I'm very aware of my wins (and losses to not repeat), I never wrote them down. And I think I never consciously thanked myself. It's an interesting idea to contemplate on, thank you.
No worries, I'd be interested to hear how it goes if you decide to do it.
Will keep you updated. I started to include your brother's idea to put a few good things from the week before in the Saturday selection, but that's not really "wins". And the thanking part strikes be really, I've been thinking about it while going to the market to stock up for the strike that might start tonight, and I'm always incredibly grateful towards others, but not myself. Not ungrateful, either. So yes, it'll be interesting to do the book and then thank myself for the effort and such that lead to the wins.
There is a thin line between lazyness and relaxation. I'm having quite a lazy Sunday at the moment, but it does involve a morning walk, visiting family and some reading in the evening.
I don't agree with you on this one. Although I often do listen to podcasts or webinars when cycling to work or back home, I also often choose to not listen to anything at all. Expecially when I had a busy day. Sometimes your brain just has an overflow of information and then it's good to give it some rest. Earlier this week I posted a blog about being more mindful, which exactly is about this topic.
The 'celebrate your wins' and 'win book' look interesting. Are they big hairy and audaciois? Or are they smaller, so you can have more successes to celebrate? Are these work-related or also personal goals? Maybe you have any recent wins you could share with us?
I don't like to share much of my real life here so will not share any of my "recent wins" other than to say that I'm on a work trip currently and have been struggling through being away from my girlfriend, really feeling the fact I'm away yet again and not with her. The win? I'm flying home in a day and we ate dinner together tonight (by video chat) to mitigate the fact I'm feeling detached.
Haha. That makes two of us.
But thanks for sharing a bit, so I can get the idea. I wondered if it were wins like climbing the mount everest or something. But I think it is good to celebrate 'smaller' wins as well.
We all know that reading is a very good habit. But I accept more meaningful reading and not useless childish stories. I read a chapter of a positive story every day after waking up in the morning. It provides the positive feedback needed to spend the day well. By reading the biography of a developed person, one can gain new knowledge or expand one's knowledge. I am of the opinion that reading can definitely help in establishing good habits.
Reading first thing in the morning isn't something I've done much of but it seems to be a really good way to start the day. Good work, keep it up.
I would give a valid comment, but I was too lazy to read the 11th post about my laziness. 😄
Although I toyed with the idea that I might should be flattered that you are writing about me again, even if I am too lazy to be taking good advice.
I only have 13 more to go.
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Reading is very important because it enriches vocabulary and is very useful when writing. My dad was a book lover and taught us the value of books at home. I like to read, and I do the same with my son. I find him books on topics that interest him, and he enjoys reading. We're currently reading "A Bear Called Paddington." We've only read a few pages, and the story seems interesting. He makes a long journey from South America to London, where he is adopted by a family. I hope to finish it soon.
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I've found this to be true for the most part. I used to waste a lot of time listening to sports talk radio while driving. Now, I always listen to books or podcasts.
However, there is a danger of filling every minute with consuming content and not taking any time to quietly think and contemplate. Sometimes it is healthy to turn off everything to quiet your mind and think.
I'm sure you already know this and practice it based on how often you write and the quality of the writing.
I'm still working on the victory achieved post. Haven't forgotten about it.
Any chance we could get a sneak peek at how you write yours down and how you celebrate? Do you use an analog notebook, a computer document, etc?
I can't stand tall-radio...used to be ok back in the day but now I find it annoying and unproductive. Things change I guess.
I use a book to write mine down, o like leading through the pages later on and the initial act of handwriting them in there.
As for the "celebrations."
It could be an afternoon of lazing in my hammock, lunch and the apartment gallery, a massive hike, a ride on my motorbikes, picnic with my gal, a good restaurant, weekend away in a B&B, dinner and a movie, a new off-road or gun related item, a trip to Europe for a month or so...I once also got my truck tuned on the dyno. (Makes some insane power and torque numbers now.) I bought a new bicycle yesterday so rides on that will be coming up.
It doesn't much matter as long as the win is noted.
Of course, the celebration has to be commensurate to the win, no bigger. I can't recall if you saw my "chalice" post of last week but that sort of explains as well.
And yeah, relaxatand recuperation is vital, AI do much of it. I have a pretty good life really.
Same for me with the talk radio.
Thanks for sharing your method, it's nice to know what and how other people are doing things.
Writing on paper has a powerful impact. If you ever get a chance to read Leonardo da Vinci's biography by Walter Isaacson, it's inspiring how much he wrote down and journaled.
Yes, your chalice post is where you challenged me to celebrate a victory and write about it.
Ah yeah I forgot. I've only just returned back from Brisbane, a very full on work trip so am a little short on brain power. I better smarten up because I have to be back at work shortly. 🥴
I'll check that book out, cheers.
Everything you've listed I try to put into practice, but the one I most immerse myself in, is the very first one. I read voraciously. Not just fluff stuff, though I do indulge in a romance novel on occasion, but lots of how-to's, historicals, manuals, tutorials, etc. Lots and lots of how things were done in the distant past.
I'm not surprised really, mostly the smart, engaging and interested people I know all read.
I read everything really...books on ballistics and shooting, history, fantasy, crime, war, outdoors, biographies, business...the list is endless.
Never stop reading, never stop learning sounds like a good way to live. If you can read something and not learn anything than you have very poor comprehension skills. I know this because when I am tired and try to read I have to read the same paragraph, page etc over and over. That's when I know it's time to shut the book and go to sleep lol.
It's a good trigger to know when to stop. I get that way sometimes as well. A break sometimes helps but sometimes that's not possible. Work for instance.
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