RELATIONSHIP.

Hey guys welcome to my blog, I hope you all are great cause am doing well myself. So today I will be talking about RELATIONSHIP yeah the man and woman relationship, Before I start I want us to know that everyone is with someone for a reason! And I would like to start with a question which is, How's your relationship going? is it going the way you planned, the way God planned it or the way the both of you planned it? Relationship is one of the most important stage before marriage. In relationship you get to know if you can tolerate certain behaviors and also know if you can actually live with that particular person.

I must confess that relationships can not really be a bed of roses in fact it is not a bed of roses at all, if you truly love each other and want it to work then you must be ready to learn, unlearn and relearn. Lol what a journey 😂 Love is indeed a crazy thing isn't it? to me I will always say love is an unnecessary necessity Lol.

Relationship can be tough if you are with the wrong person, loving in such relationship from the opposite sex would be really hard. Which leads us to this 👉 Two types of people in relationships are

1. The serious ones and
2. The unserious ones
   Now lemme break it down in every relationship there's always that male and female who know they won't get married in the end but they still maintain the relationship status untill they finally decides to part ways.

Now in this category is either the guy is there just because he enjoys the girl in bed, He doesn't want to let go those big butts or he's not yet done using her to generate money for himself, of course men also use ladies to generate money for themselves but that's story for another day. Now to the girls is either she has a boyfriend whom she loves so much but his not doing well and on the other to maintain their relationship she decides to date rich guys to keep up with her life style and also use the money to support her Main boyfriend while waiting for him to make it or she's dating a guy for the main time while waiting for the right one, that's when you hear girls say things like am dating him to upgrade my life and not for love 💔

Now to the serious ones, once they meet each other they know they are meant for each other. they are always very intentional about each other, they want to see each other grow, they talk about their future together, they have similar prayer points. The love and energy coming from both sides are always pure full of positivity.

They quarrel, they fight, they argue but still can't stay away from each other. These set are ready to make the relationship work, they are ready to move the mountains of relationship and perform relationship magic, they see their future through each other and make sure they secure it with everything they've got, No matter the storms, No matter the wind, No matter how hard the relationship may begin to look they still find a way to make it work.

In this type of relationship you already know a lot has been learnt, unlearn and relearn now that's what we call being intentional about your relationship. You all know there is no way I would end this without a story and this story helped me as well.
During my university days I met a lady her name is Alina, she is tall and beautiful with a caramel skin, very polite and brilliant and most importantly very out spoken. Now this lady had been my friend for the longest and I know she is in a relationship but I've not met the guy for ones.

So, one day I was so bored at home and didn't want to read my books either, then I decided to visit her reaching her house I met her really angry and quarreling, I was confused because I've never seen her like that before so I was so eager to know what the matter was, So I rushed to her immediately and asked her what the matter was? she said it was her boyfriend, he annoyed her and she has had enough of him and she's ending the relationship.

I was like ah! calm down first now it hasn't gotten to that it's just something you both can talk about and straighten things out. But something happened the next day which got me really surprised, the next day I went to check on Alina and to know how she was doing and I met her boyfriend there, in fact they were eating from one plate, laughing about the things they said to each other when they had misunderstandings.

oboy! I was confused I went out to check the room number properly if I was in the right room and unfortunately I was. I came in and sat quietly and at some point they engaged me in their conversation and I couldn't ask her anything obviously they've settled already and behaving like they just started dating, it was really cute to watch.

The same issue occured between them again after 4 months and they settled and behaved like it they never had issues, I couldn't hold myself anymore I had to ask her Girl how are you guys doing this ? with a very eager voice and my facial expressions was top-notch 😂 She answered me CONVERSATION AND ACCEPTING EACH OTHERS IMPERFECTIONS.

I was like madam we communicate everyday tell me something else, she still maintained, Abigail It's Meaningful Conversation and accepting imperfections. She went on, My man is very intentional about our relationship and so do I, we always talk things out whenever there is an issue and make sure it doesn't last more than a day, it's a rule we set in other guide our relationship, We discuss and try to adjust , she went further to say even if it's already leading to a breakup my man would come to me and say.

My Baby it's Together and Forever... I assumed you understood my Job and the target we are building for ourselves harry said affectionately to me.I do, But I need you are around, I mean we are in this together and we need each other Alina Said further.
It's Alright Honey, I understand you better now, Regardless of whatever is happening we need to create time for ourselves. We have each other always.Harry and I have been together for a year and two months. We are not the perfect Couple but we have share Love and accept our differences and individual Uniqueness.

The word perfection exist, But only in words, We see our imperfections but choose to stay together.
Better off together than without.
This is a phase of our lives together, and he Make things easier because of the openness he creates and willingness to work things out. Harry said to me

If Loving you so much is a crime, I wouldn't mind commiting more crimes and forever be found guilty.
And for every Cinderella, There is a shoe and ours fit perfectly in each other and Alina replied
Casually I would say, I Love you
Literally I'd say enchanted by the spell of Love Helplessly I allow myself flow in Love, Being colonized by the man I so desire.
Now that's what we call being intentional about your relationship, No matter what happens you should accept the fact that you are not perfect and don't allow pride ruin God's design for your life this is applicable to male and female.

Your relationship may be suffering from lack of Conversation and wanting your partner to be perfect forgetting you ain't perfect either.
IF YOU WANT A PERFECT PARTNER MY SISTERS AND BROTHERS BUILD IT YOURSELF.
Thanks for reading, bye.